Dating... from my perspective

Remember that tirade I wrote sometime last year about dating?  Well, its not time for another one of those, thank goodness haha But I thought I should share a few of my thoughts and experiences to maybe shed some light for those of you who think we "older" women aren't trying hard enough or are being too picky. 
Since April Conference, there's been a lot of talk in my circles about marriage and "securing" ourselves an eternal companion.  Never fear- still something I'd like and want and hope for!  However, I get really frustrated when people think its just that easy.  When people assume that I don't try.  When they tell me I'm too content with my life and no man will ever feel like he can bring anything to the table I'd want so that's why I'm not dating more.  *sigh* 
I'm sure a lot of these individuals feel they are expressing their thoughts out of concern and doing what they feel is best.  I don't feel like they're being malicious.  However, I DO feel like they don't have the slightest idea what they're talking about.  You can't tell me that you remember what its like to be single when you got married before you could even buy alcohol.  You don't have any idea what its like to go to church by yourself or buy a house by yourself or pay your bills by yourself or whatever.  My comments are not to garner sympathy or pity- please spare me.  But perhaps shed some light on the process that you claim is so easy and I should try to do more of.
Let's start with where to find me a date.  If I want someone of my faith, the best place for me to start is at church.  Ok- I can attend a singles ward and go to all the activities they plan.  I can even be in charge of those activities in various callings for 12 of the roughly 15 years I attended singles wards.  Not working.
So... alright- I'll try out this online thing, right?  Some of my best of friends have had great experiences with it so I'll give it a shot.  Here's what I ended up with:

• One man who told me I was "pretty but not really beautiful, but that was ok because all the beautiful women were actually crazy."
• Or the man who wanted me to meet his daughter after our third date and was incredibly upset when I told him I wasn't ready to bring kids into it unless I knew where we were going... he responded "Well don't you know where this is going?!  I do!" 
• Or maybe the man who thought he could turn raw sewage into drinking water?
• Or the man who cried about his ex-wife on our first date?
• Or finally- and my personal favorite- the most recent guy who apologized for not being in touch over the weekend because he'd been in JAIL.

So let's see- my next option for finding someone to date would be frequenting bars or dance clubs.  Considering I don't drink, don't want someone who drinks and seriously doubt I could find a worthy priesthood holder in that situation, I'm fairly sure those to places are out. *sigh*  Where else would you suggest?  There's a Home Depot at the top of my street and I've considered spending my summer mornings there to try and snag myself a general contractor... (KIDDING! haha lighten up!)
Again, I'm not sharing this to garner sympathy or hear all your well-intentioned words of comfort and support.  At this point in my life, its really quite comical. I mean, who can say "Ya... I didn't hear back from "BOB" because he was in jail."  That's something you hear from Jerry Springer, right?  Yes, I'm quite content with my life.  I wish things were different but I know I'm being watched out for and protected in the process. I can't ask for more than that.  Just maybe consider your words and actions before rushing to judge or comment on the marital status of others.